Intimacy & Commitment

The Overnight

By Elisabeth LaMotte / July 4, 2015

A few days ago, the New York Times reported on the explosion of new ideas and approaches in sex therapy and revolutionary thinking in the psychotherapy field about how to work with couples around issues of monogamy and sex.  The article, “First Comes Sex Talk With These Renegades of Sex Therapy” by Amy Sohn points out that…

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The Second Best Exotic Marigold Hotel

By Elisabeth LaMotte / April 23, 2015

Director: John Madden Screenplay: Ol Parker Stars:  Judi Dench, Maggie Smith, Bill Nighy, Dev Patel PG – 122 Minutes We are socialized to imagine that getting engaged and planning a wedding will be a magical whirlwind fulfilling life-long fantasies of white lace, multi-level tiered cakes and happy-ever-after.  Any couples therapist with experience in pre-marital counseling…

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The One I Love

By Elisabeth LaMotte / February 15, 2015

Director:  Charlie McDowell Writer: Justin Lader 91 minutes/ August, 2014 Infidelity is a common topic of conversation in couples therapy.  While discovering that one’s partner was unfaithful is a devastating and often traumatic experience, many couples can and do work through this discovery and come out stronger on the other side. One of the toughest…

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Newlyweds

By Elisabeth LaMotte / December 14, 2014

Each holiday season, many of our therapy clients reflect and prepare emotionally in an effort to make the most of their upcoming visits with family.   Family visits can be psychologically intense experiences that are especially meaningful for those who are in therapy and hoping to break out of long standing patterns and dysfunctional family…

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Romantics Anonymous

By Elisabeth LaMotte / September 2, 2014

Most of us experience some form of social anxiety.  We may feel nervous before a social gathering or slightly agitated during group activities.  In the extreme, social anxiety compromises the ability to connect to another person in an intimate relationship.  Jean-Pierre Ameris’ 2010 French film “Les Emotifs Anonymous” is a comedic but meaningful study of what happens…

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The Snow Queen

By Elisabeth LaMotte / July 28, 2014

Michael Cunningham, 2014, 272 pages Intimate relationships are a primary focus in psychotherapy.  Through therapy, people examine their closest relationships in order to determine what aspects of their approach to others work well for them, and what aspects of their approach they might want to change in order to form healthier attachments.  In order to…

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Her

By Elisabeth LaMotte / June 10, 2014

As a therapist working with adults in their twenties, thirties and forties, many of whom are single, I frequently discuss the way that technology affects dating and relationships with my clients.  I often wonder what the future will look like, and how much farther the internet revolution will infiltrate and impact the human experience of…

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The Secret Life of Walter Mitty

By Elisabeth LaMotte / May 22, 2014

Ben Stiller, 2013, 114 minutes The intersection of dating and technology is an inevitable topic for single adults in therapy.  Whether discussing questions about the choice to pursue on-line dating, or how Facebook, Instagram and texting shape the modern relationship landscape, technology has a profound influence over the process of seeking romance and connection. Directed…

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Mating in Captivity

By Elisabeth LaMotte / April 14, 2014

Esther Perel, 2007, 272 pages A mantra of my post-graduate training in couples, family and sex therapy was that when a couple is struggling in the bedroom, that struggle is a mirror for what’s happening outside of the bedroom.  So, if you help a couple increase intimacy and enhance communication, and you employ the sex…

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Hope Springs

By Elisabeth LaMotte / March 26, 2014

Cinematic portrayals of couples therapy are tough to acheive.  While television series such as In Treatment and The Sopranos have done a wonderful job of conveying what its like to experience individual psychotherapy, a realistic portrayal is much harder to achieve in a film. And even harder to achieve with respect to couples.  The groundbreaking film Hope Springs (available on DVD) achieves…

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