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What Does it Mean to Commit to Your Second Choice?

By Elisabeth LaMotte / June 13, 2022

Spencer recently spoke with Huffington Post for an article about committing to one’s “second-choice”. Below is some interesting Q & A with Spencer’s insights about a complicated and controversial topic. Do you think this dynamic of going with the second choice when the first is not available is more common than people realize or care…

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Why Do Some People Move Immediately From One Relationship Into The Next?

By Elisabeth LaMotte / May 13, 2022

We all know people who seem to need to be in a romantic relationship no matter what. The short answer is that typically people who “cushion” the end of one relationship with the beginning of another do not have a clear but rather a fragmented sense of self. So they need another person in order…

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What are the Signs of a Toxic Friendship?

By Elisabeth LaMotte / April 2, 2022

Spencer Northey recently spoke with Huffington Post about how to recognize when you are in a toxic friendship. The full text of her answer follows. They are not a “Friend of Your Relationship” I first heard the term “friend of the relationship” used in the book Not “Just Friends” by Jean Coppock Staeheli and Shirley…

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Is it Normal to Struggle to Enjoy Life While Following the News in Ukraine?

By Elisabeth LaMotte / March 3, 2022

A reporter reached out from The Huffington Post asking if it was normal to feel “guilty” — about enjoying life post COVID, dining out, traveling — and requested comments from a broad group of therapists. Both Spencer and Elisabeth contributed thoughts on this important, complicated topic and we feel honored to both be a part…

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Why Are So Many Of Us Obsessed with All Too Well Taylor’s Version?

By Spencer Northey / January 20, 2022

It’s important to address how lack of closure after any length of time can leave us struggling to get over a relationship for longer than we might, had there been a clear and satisfying end. Lack of closure seems to happen more often with short-term relationships because our culture seems to think there should be…

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Have You Spoken with your Partner about the Household Chore Divide?

By Elisabeth LaMotte / November 1, 2021

Romantic relationships thrive through a healthy ability to balance separateness and togetherness. Individuals who can venture out into the world and enjoy hearty doses of independence and then come back together with their partner to connect romantically tend to report greater relationship satisfaction and less anxiety. Reliance on remote work during the pandemic has compromised…

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Stressed about Returning to the Office?

By Elisabeth LaMotte / September 7, 2021

Following 18 months of remote work, many in the DMV are returning to the office with a mix of emotions. As a therapist, the greatest stressor I hear is fear about the Delta variant. At this moment, that fear is outpacing social anxiety about reacclimating to an in-person office experience and the constant social interaction…

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What’s the Deal with Apology Dinners?

By Elisabeth LaMotte / May 4, 2021

I knew nothing about the viral apology dinner convo that was flying around the cybersphere until contacted by Huffington Post to weigh in. I also had a chance to discuss the topic with channel Q and will add that link soon. Therapists have some thoughts about that viral “Apology Dinner” Below are my full thoughts…

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Men Were Stepping Up with Housework Early in the Pandemic; Now That They Have Reverted to Old Patters, What Can We Do?

By Elisabeth LaMotte / February 19, 2021

When Huffington Post reached out regarding research indicated that men were stepping up with housework early in the pandemic, here’s what Elisabeth had to say about it: Couples fortunate enough to work from home throughout the pandemic have seen their household chores multiply and opportunities for alone time diminish. Parents are often balancing work from…

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What’s a film suggestion that might challenge our perspective in an intelligent way?

By Elisabeth LaMotte / January 8, 2021

Check out our review of the documentary film Angry Inuk. It is as memorable as it is meaningful.

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