Spencer Northey

The Beatles, “Hold me Tight,” and Emotion-Focused Therapy

By Spencer Northey / August 26, 2021

    This post is about both Hold Me Tight by the Beatles, one of their least favorite, but still famous songs AND the groundbreaking couple therapy book Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson. (Note: I chose to post the cover from the movie Across the Universe because the sound and video quality is better than…

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Jay-Z and Bowenian “Going Home”

By Spencer Northey / August 12, 2021

Jay-Z’s song “Moment of Clarity” is a powerful example of what renowned family psychotherapist Murray Bowen calls “going home” and “doing the work” to make sense of your family system.  To thoroughly experience the song, I recommend you find his version from The Black Album on your favorite streaming platform. The variations posted on YouTube…

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Something Corporate and How to “Forget December”

By Spencer Northey / July 31, 2021

  We are in peak summer 2021 and December 2020 seems a long way away. Even though things are not completely back to normal, and some of us are anxious about the variant, most of us who are vaccinated in the DC area have been able to move on from having to stay in, socially…

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Rosalía, Bad Bunny, and “Summer Flings”

By Spencer Northey / July 20, 2021

    The song “La Noche de Anoche” by Rosalía and Bad Bunny is so seductively haunting. It embodies the paradox of a fiery connection that is both ephemeral, and everlasting in your heart. Lyric Sample: Porque la noche de anoche fue (-ue) Algo que yo no puedo explicar Sola, dando y dándole sin parar (-rar) Tú…

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R.E.M. and the Gottmans’ Four Horsemen

By Spencer Northey / June 15, 2021

It’s the End of the World as We Know It (And I Feel Fine) Recorded 1987 By Bill Berry, Peter Buck, Mike Mills, and Michal Stipe Performed by REM World serves its own needs, listen to your heart bleed Tell me with the rapture and the reverent in the right, right You vitriolic, patriotic, slam,…

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Marvin Gaye, Antiracism, and Therapeutic Differentiation

By Spencer Northey / May 27, 2021

What’s Going On By Al Cleveland, Renaldo Benson, and Marvin Gaye You know we’ve got to find a way To bring some lovin’ here today  (full lyrics at the end of this post) In 1971 Marvin Gaye released the hauntingly beautiful song “What’s Going On” in response to the police brutality, inequality, and suffering he…

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Bebe Rexha and Heartbreak

By Spencer Northey / May 18, 2021

  I’m a mess, I’m a loser I’m a hater, I’m a user I’m a mess for your love, it ain’t new I’m obsessed, I’m embarrassed I don’t trust no one around us I’m a mess for your love, it ain’t new  (see full lyrics at the end of this post) Dear Mess, If your…

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Coat of Many Colors

By Spencer Northey / May 7, 2021

Coat of Many Colors Written and Sung by Dolly Parton My coat of many colors That my momma made for me Made only from rags But I wore it so proudly (see full lyrics at the end of this post) This song tells a beautiful story of a mom’s differentiation, and how it supported her…

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The Bones

By Spencer Northey / April 30, 2021

The Bones Sung by Maren Morris Written by Maren Morris, Jimmy Robbins, and Laura Veltz  When the bones are good, the rest don’t matter Yeah, the paint could peel, the glass could shatter Let it rain ’cause you and I remain the same When there ain’t a crack in the foundation Baby, I know any…

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One Step at a Time

By Spencer Northey / April 27, 2021

One Step at a Time Sung by Jordin Sparks Written by Robbie Nevil, Lauren Evans, Jonas Jeberg and Mich Hansen We live and we learn To take one step at a time There’s no need to rush It’s like learning to fly Or falling in love (Just falling in love) It’s gonna happen when it’s supposed to happen Then…

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